Explosive Anger

Have you gotten seriously mad at someone for any reason? I have and it did not feel good. It did not feel good while I was mad or even after all I said. I could only regret getting mad in the first place. I wish I would have just taken a walk outside rather than saying all I said. We, dads, do get mad about various issues. Whether work related or family, remember to keep your cool. Get in control of your anger and please do not allow it to control you. Withdraw from situations which may be too overwhelmingly annoying. Walk now, discuss later.

Maintaining Your Cool

Guys, we seem to loose it sometimes. "It" refers to our ability to regulate emotions, specifically, anger. Most people do not like to communicate with those who appear to be mad all the time. I, at work, do not like to talk to people who seem to display anger all the time. Whether it's due to stress or any other factor, anger needs to be regulated. Having said this, I also acknowledge that men are, simply, humans. All humans display various types of emotions and regulate anger differently. There is not a single "fool-proof" way to regulate anger. You have to see what works for you. Try different methods and see which brings you some success in regulating emotions. Exercising seems to be a good method for stress relief and it seems to boost positive feelings about self. Go ahead and research some more methods and find one that works for you. It can keep you from losing "it", hopefully, most of the time.

Be A Man, Raise Those Kids!

Man, I came home from work today and I feel more stressed than when I am at work!!! How is this possible? I think it has a lot to do with the fact that my family consists of two toddlers. Yeah, they are a handful. Ordinary outings to restaurants turn into a hassle when you have to ask for two highchairs, deal with food being thrown across the table, and drinks spilling all over the table. Yes, it is not easy to raise kids but it is not impossible either. Several couples wait to have kids after marriage. My wife and I waited one year but it seems that the average period for waiting is two years. I would advice couples to be certain they are ready to have children but surprises do happen! Even though it is not easy to raise kids, I still enjoy every moment of it. I hope you will find similar joy raising your children.

Work and Home

Work life and home life need to be apart. Stress of various proportions can arise if this is not so. While you may think that living your career at home is a smart choice, your spouse may think different. She might begin on the same page as you but, as you continue treating your home life like it's your career, she will begin differentiating from you. Your work is your work and your home is where your family is. Your family expects to communicate with dad or husband, not a manager, police officer, or any other occupation. Since most men take their careers and jobs seriously, it is essential to learn how to leave work at work instead of bringing it home. A few exceptions may arise. These can be careers or jobs that require you to be on call, carry work phones to be reached at any time, or similar obligations. Even with these exceptions, learning and practicing methods for stress control and budgeting out family time will be greatly appreciated by your family. Sit down with your spouse and discuss times to set aside for yourselves and with your children. This should result in much more pleasant work and home life.

That Cheesy Smile!!!!!

The mugshot! I have been guilty of this in various pictures. What I failed to realize was that every moment only comes once. No moment is ever repeated. You will never have this day again. I am typing this on April 26, 2012. I know there will not be any other April 26, 2012. Smile in those family pictures dads, they will be a way you will remembered long after you are gone. In our society, we do not seem to think about what their grandchildren will think of them but we should. We should think far into future. Enjoying your current moment in life can be reflected in your pictures. Do you want to be remembered or forgotten? Positive memories of people who have passed away seem to be of people who conveyed happiness through smiling in photographs. 

Patience

"Patience is a virtue. Possess it if you can. Seldom in women but never in men". (My grandpa). Yes, he made sure I understood the meaning of this phrase. I was taught by him to maintain patience. Problems are solved better when patience is practiced. It holds true because it seems that when you exercise patience, it gives you more time to think and contemplate ideas and solutions to a particular problem. Getting upset and mad is a natural tendency in any human being, not just men. But learning how to maintain patience can lead to success in a variety of ways. From relationships to careers, patience can improve your lifestyle.

Marriage and Money

This is a very scary topic. Many marriages end because of money mismanagement. Financial freedom is a very common goal in America and in most countries around the world. Learning how to handle money can either make or break your marriage. I will cover this topic more in future blogs but please consider these two advice's for a happier marriage. First, financial communication between you and your spouse should never hide anything. If you spent some money, let her know. If you saved some money, let her know. Both of you have to learn to be on the same page!  Either you or your spouse might be a spender or a saver. Maybe both of you are spenders or savers. Only you and your spouse know yourselves! The saver is usually better able to save but doesn't contribute much towards spending. This is essential! Some spending, such as groceries and gasoline, are necessary and should be budgeted out. Secondly, please let your spouse do some shopping! All men should know that some women love shopping. Either shopping for clothes or any other item. My wife certainly loves shopping for items for our children. I have tried stopping her without success so it was better to budget out her spending. But I did not budget her spending by myself, I also included her in the process. Learn to work together financially and build a happier marriage. 

Those Annoying Kids!!!

Kids can stress you out! One minute they are into this and the other they are into that. Wow! I feel for you dad's. I experience all these emotions too. I get happy, sad, and mad. It seems that I go through these emotions within a minute! But life does not end like this. You see, there will be a time in future when you will want your children to be, well, kids and they won't. They will be all grown up. There will be struggles at all stages in your child's/children's lives. Learning to deal with it, instead of getting mad and shutting down, is the best road to take in order for your and your child's/children's healthy development.

Quality Man

Men, we are strong and just the thought of romance can make some of us feel "girly". But, most often, romance seems to be what women want. Sometimes women want a strong man who also knows how to romance her. Our society depicts men who do not know romance. These men have positive light shed on them when it shouldn't be so. Men, be strong but don't forget to love your wife/girlfriend with that romantic love. Go buy her some flowers, go ahead and cook for her, or go ahead and take her out on a romantic date. It's not easy to be romantic but most ladies do see your trials. Make that love last.

You're on A - She's on B

Gentlemen, isn't it true that we, also, feel like our wives or girlfriends just don't get us! I seem to think so. Sometimes I feel like my wife isn't really on the same page as me. While some men out there might not get frustrated with this, I do. It's so hard to control my anger when I get frustrated with mediocre issues such as these. But it is essential to learn self control in order to be a man. You see, a man does not prove anything by resorting to anger. If you resort to anger, how do you expect to live with your significant other. I don't believe in divorce, just like any responsible man who likes to stick to his plans.

Responsible Dad

A growing problem in our society are father's who jump ship! As soon as they hear that the girl is pregnant, they run. They seem to be running from responsibility. I can't imagine leaving my daughters. There are a number of reasons why this happens but are there any specific ones? Well, I think it is due to the man's lack of regard about anyone else but himself. When you are having fun, the fun doesn't stop! That seems to be the motto and, astonishingly, it holds true! Most men who run from their pregnant girlfriends do find other women to be with. That is until they run from them as well.